It’s not uncommon for partners to feel insecure in a relationship. However, most people are unaware of their insecurities.
Few flawed beliefs and fears hold them back from developing a deeper connection with their partner. Those insecurities aren’t always the fault of the partner.
If you are honest with each other and sure about the connection you are looking for in a relationship, you can figure out ways to move past them and transform your relationship.
Since most men might not realise the signs of insecurities in a relationship, here we bring to you seven common things make men feel insecure.
1. When a girlfriend pays compliment to another man
If the partner compliments the look or success of any other guy, it makes most men feel out of line. He won’t let that go out of his mind for a long time. But guys, that’s okay. If your partner genuinely compliments another man, it shouldn’t make you feel inferior. Accept it as a kind gesture made towards the other person. It’s that simple.
2. S.e.xual ability
Nothing makes men more insecure than the idea of being lousy in sex. Men constantly worry about their s.e.xual performance. Ease off, guys. You don’t have to be a dynamo. Forge a secure attachment with your partner that grows over time because most women seek an emotional connection even during physical intimacy. Instead of making assumptions, ask your partner about her treasured moments and you are good to go.
3. When he has been cheated on before
When a man falls in love again just after an ugly break-up, he might still feel intimidated by the bitter experience of the past. As a result of which, he might develop a generalised idea and later start validating their misconceptions. Guys, you need to take it easy, don’t beat yourself up too much for what happened in the past. We cannot hold onto the damage of our past relationship and punish our current partners. Not all women are the same.
4. When his girlfriend is more successful than him
Women, in the modern world, are trying to change the game by emerging successful in all fields. However, men are still subdued insecurity about women getting ahead of them. The age-old norms of chauvinism and patriarchy have formulated the idea that women are not built to be more successful than men. To support this, a study done by a group of researchers in the US has found that husbands grow increasingly insecure of their wives earn more than 40 per cent of the total household income.
5. The ex-partner of a girlfriend or wife
No matter how many times a guy says that he has the least problem with you being friends with your ex, do not believe him. Most men end up subconsciously comparing himself to the ex-partner of his girlfriend or wife. But guys, if your partner is in touch with her ex, it does not mean she is still in love with him.
6. Presence of male friends
There is nothing wrong with having male friends. A suggestion for women: if you spend a considerable amount of time with your guy friends or talk to them often, be very honest about it. Lying about it will only give your boyfriend reasons enough to doubt you. It will be always in the back of his mind, that you might break up with him for a better guy. So, having male friends isn’t wrong but lying about them can make a boyfriend feel insecure in a relationship.
7. When you are too secretive
If you are an introvert or someone who fear attachment and doesn’t want to get too close, you might have a reason to worry. Your behaviour can make your guy feel like you’re hiding something. What most men do not realise is that a girl need to feel secure and ready before she introduces her man to her inner circle.
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