When it comes to a relationship ending, every situation is different, and often neither party is really to blame. Then again, other times somebody absolutely is to blame, and the entire breakup could have been avoided if they’d just been paying more attention. In a thread on the AskWomen SubReddit, women have been sharing all of the different factors that led to them breaking things off with their partners.
One commonly mentioned issue that comes up, again and again, is a lack of communication. “He was avoidant and refused to talk about any issues unless I literally begged him,” says one woman. “And to make it worse, he had an aversion to facing problems in person and preferred to hide behind text messages. The last two years of the relationship being long distance made this problem unsolvable. He also was unable/unwilling to give me the affection I needed, and in the end, it felt like we were just friends who talked every day, not lovers.”
“He refused to talk about any problems at all ever and just kept them bottled up,” says another. “One day, he exploded and told me he had been lying to me for a year & that all these things he said were perfectly fine were actually not fine at all. I’m 100% willing to work on things in relationships, and we’d probably still be together if he had communicated issues in the moment instead of lying and saying there weren’t any issues. I couldn’t continue with the relationship. I’d be super paranoid and I’d feel like I’m walking on eggshells all the time. Not worth it.”